Chapter 10 Equanimity and Peace: The Spiritual Source of Your Boredom
If you are really at one with yourself, you cannot be bored. Boredom arises from the apparent feeling within oneself of the lack of distinct new activities. The lack of variety also can cause boredom. But boredom arises inside you, as are all things that involve your emotions. If you seek after constant variety, all the time, if that is your model, then boredom will closely follow you. To combat boredom, you must also change what is inside you.
If you watch too much television or surf the Internet too much, you will gain a rather constant picture of people “always on the go” especially in the West…especially in America. Everyone in America is frenetically searching for the next thing to occupy their time. They can never stop. It is just one thing after another. After one thing is achieved, they cannot stand still for even a moment. They become restless and bored. They search for the next thing to occupy their time. Much of this comes from their social conditioning to belong to the supersonic American culture around them. When they see others running around looking for their next “high”, they become part of the culture and seek likewise stimulation. Television and the Internet moves people to need constant new stimulation, all the time, every time.
The pursuit of constant excitement also has it perils, but there is no end. And any search that finds no end is bound to cause frustration and suffering. It is like a tree that sprouts new leaves all the time. As soon you pull on the leaves of the tree branches, more leaves sprout further up on the tree. It never ends, because the cycle of excitement and boredom are never ending until you gain an appropriate balance within yourself.
When a person is comfortable inside themselves, there frequently is no ability to become bored. It is your relation to the greater society that is the sources of your boredom. Still, if you so choose to live inside this American society, boredom will come over and over again. And this must be addressed because your boredom, when steered in the wrong direction, can cause sometimes dangerous and ill fated activities. Drugs are one such outlet for boredom, And this very poor choice must be avoided.
Boredom is often seen as the opposite of stimulation, and everyone must look inside themselves to witness, engage, satisfy, and then curtail their need for stimulation. It must be a gradual stepwise strategy. Hopefully, after long exercises, you will no longer feel bored for much of the day, and your days will be filled with more equanimity and peace.
Know that the chase after stimulation and arousal often will bring you misery in the long run, until you find just the right balance that fits perfectly within your quiet personality. Everyone needs some type of engagement, but not too much, and the search for excitement must be curtailed and balanced with your inner life, or you will go on searching forever, and forever be in misery.