What is so hopeless and sad is to see a person talk about his/her job with hopelessness. There can be no greater tragedy. A deep seated basic need that all people possess is a desire to feel needed and appreciated. The first step to find your “work”, is to discover what your passions are. To heck with what the world thinks. If you feel like you are making a difference, being appreciated, it does not matter what your pay is.
As we noted a few chapters ago, artists and clergy made the top of the “job satisfaction” list, even though they make the least money of all occupations on average. I would doubt any of these people consider that they have “jobs”. I am sure they term it their “passionate work”. Another reason you should always be “self employed” or do part time “consulting work”, or honestly “hustle” is that you can never really be “yourself” in a “job” type job that you only do for money or status.
If you can’t tell your boss he is being a jerk or criticize the company here and then, that is not a place you want to stay at. If you drop your need for ego, then you can passionately discover your dreams and follow through with them. A simple test of whether your “job” is satisfactory is asking yourself how you feel at the end of a day? How do you treat your spouse/girlfriend/kids when you come home?
There is a psychological expression called “projection”. If you are upset all day at work, you will naturally bring home all the ill feelings you endured during the daytime. That is an undeniable fact. How do you treat the cold calling workers trying to sell you something you don’t want like life insurance when you get home? If you find yourself yelling at them, that tells you that your work is unsatisfactory. The hurt, the pain, the suffering, the frustration you endured at your “job” you carry back home.
Look at yourself when you get home in the mirror? Are you grimacing? Or does your face look relaxed? Remember what we discussed before. If your heart and happiness has been squashed at work, you will treat the people around you with disdain and hurt. Nobody can turn 180 degrees after they had a rough day at the office and smile with love at their children, their roommates, their wife/significant other. If you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice, never apple juice or pear juice. Likewise, if you are filled with anger and frustration during your workday, and then if you are “squeezed” by any actions by your family, friends, acquaintances, then you will let out anger and frustration. If your day is filled with equanimity, peace, and love, then even if “squeezed” by a cold calling sales representative, you will answer with kindness. You will not yell on the phone at them for disturbing your day.