Let’s start this chapter with a new quotes I gathered,
“We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light”. ~Mary Dunbar
“When people believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.” ~Norman Vincent Peale
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
“There is a Divine and Infinite potential within every soul, an intimate access to the mind of God and the passion of the Universe” ~K. Allen Kay
“Yours is the energy that makes your world. There are no limitations to the self except those you believe in.”
“Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.” ~Robert Collier
Building Self Esteem does require work if you have had a period of unrest and “failure”. But you must continue to believe in yourself. This life can throw at you difficult problems and you, like most others, have experienced periods where you thought the pain would never end. But each time, you would have noticed that with time, things took care of themselves. If you are bogged down by a period of self-pity, you need to start by refocusing your mind and getting your thoughts out of that dark place. The best place to start is by taking an inventory of your talents, and remembering all the good you have done. Most important DON’T ISOLATE YOURSELF!
Isolation…is like suicide. When you are isolated, your disappointments recycle like crazy in your own mind, you don’t need that.
After each layoff I face I faced, I wrote in a journal of all the possibilities I possess, my God given gifts and talents and I also have. If you are like most people, you have had a period of darkness where the darkness in the tunnel never seems to end. TheI also do a “continuing education” of self help books that further advance and put a sparkle in my soul.
Hafiz, a Muslim guru, wrote, “I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.: Also, the Nobel Prize nominee Thich Nhat Hanh, the Buddhist monk who underscores “being mindful” wrote, “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself”.
One strategy for building self esteem iis to know yourself and what is fun for you, either in the past or at the present time. Engaging in fun is a great way for you build your self esteem. Figure out what brings you joy (and I don’t believe you if you say you have never had a joyful period in your life)) and do it over and over again.
For myself, I love so much to be in the woods. I grew up next to a forest preserve, and when I feel stressed, I hope on my bicycle and go to the nearest forest preserve area. After just a few minutes in Nature, I regain my composure. In addition, I love to work out, so if and when I feel down, I run off to my gym at Bally’s and exercise, go to the sauna, go into the whirlpool, the swimming pool, and it seems to magically lift my spirits.
Ask yourself, if you have free time, what makes you happy doing? Do you enjoy nature walks, working out, mountain climbing, golf, bowling, even playing video games? Going to the museums? What else makes you happy doing? Listening to Classic Rock music on your high fidelity Sony Headphone? Don’t just reserve the joyful times for the weekends. If you enjoy drawing pictures, do it during the week too.
Continue to list things that make you happy periodically and fully engage in them. They do not have to cost you much money. So, to sum up, make your mind develop a new picture of yourself, engage in those fun activities, associate with happy people (avoid negative people like the plague), keep the fun stuff going throughout the entire week.