Once was heard: A man and woman were standing at the altar at their wedding, when the bride notices her groom has a set of golf clubs with him. “She asks him, why on earth do you have golf clubs with you?” He shrugged and then asked, “This isn’t going to take all afternoon, will it?” (addiction to golf)
“I’ve stopped drinking, but only while I’m asleep.” George Best
“How do you know if an addict is lying? Ans: His lips are moving” –Unknown
“I’m not really a heavy smoker any more. I only go through two lighters a day now.” – Bill Hicks
No other than the famous writer Mark Twain quipped, “I make it a rule NEVER TO SMOKE…while I am sleeping… even quitting smoking is the easiest thing to do, I’ve quit thousands of times.” We all I think have some addictions or another, some people have it more severe than another. You could argue that some degree of addiction is healthy, if it involves an obsession of cleanliness or being studious. However, the problem with addiction is that it never stops anywhere you want it to.
In the first joke quote above, I can relate because my dad is a golf addict…that golf is a relatively harmless addiction. However, once you are addictied to something , anything…it matters more to you then other things such as family time, money, hygiene, sleep, healthy eating, etc.
If you are an “addict” to something, you may have a tendency to be addicted or obsessed with many other things in your life. For example, if you have a history of addictions to smoking, alcohol, sleeping pills, painkillers, video games…you should probably not set foot in the future in a gambling casino. Addictions have a way of “hijacking” our control centers in our brains, and it leads to obsessions that really tear away healthy goals and our peace of mind.
I, among other things, had an addiction to sleeping pills. During stressful times in my life, I leaned on a sleeping pill to help me sleep. What I found, was that I had to take more and more of it day after day. It took a while, but I was able to wean myself off of it. Still, it hurt like heck. And when I went traveling or slept at a friend’s house, I would panic if I did not have my medicines with me. And that is unsettling to my peace.
As we discuss equanimity and peace, you cannot really have peace of mind if you have an addiction or are addicted to anything. Equanimity is as we discussed, being calm, even –tempered, evenness of mind—even under dire stresses. Since the day brings so many changes in it, if you have an addiction, you are giving up control because there will be many times you find your object of addiction inaccessible.
This is a broad issue. You may even be addicted to a person, totally obsessed with him/her. And what will happen if you cannot have his/her attention to you available when and where you want it? You will suffer, and you may even become angry and violent and make the people around you so bitter and upset at you. Meditate and focus and identify your addictions, and seek to manage them in a responsible way, even if it means going to focus groups and leaning on private friends.