One of the songs that I fancy a bit because of the funny music video is “I Wanna Be a Rock Star” by a Canadian rock band named Nickelback. I thought about whether the lyrics prove true, but after a very brief rumination, concluded that the evidence proves the song title is just false. Anyone who would watch the “Behind the Music” episodes on VH1 would note and extrapolate that virtually EVERY SINGLE band has/had serious troubles emotionally, physically, and financially. I have JUST read about a 90’s R&B singer named Brandy who, despite her fame and success, admitted she was the unhappiest teenager in the world. After their successful world tour, Bon Jovi’s band members were so exhausted and felt so utterly bored. Don’t just take my word for it, pick up ANY book at your local bookstore autobiographies or biographies about these “rock stars” and how 99% of them ended up with serious drug abuse, financial bankruptcy, suicide, mental problems, and so many divorces where their marriages lasted longer than a carton of milk in the fridge.
The singer I was just now reading about that old fart Axl Rose who is so stuck up on himself and his still giant ego (why it continues is a mystery, as he has not had a “hit” song in nearly two decades), that he could not attend the induction to the Rock n Roll Hall of Fame for his once great band, “Guns n Roses”. Back in the 1980s, after a few “good years”, his ego got the better of him and he fired (after getting control of the rights and the name) all of his band members including his band’s key to success, the guitarist “Slash”. Who in the heck does that? That is like a farmer who gets annoyed for some reason and brings out a shotgun and takes down his prized cow, all his hens, and then burns down the farm his cornfields. Dude is a giant Man-child, seriously.
His new album, which I admittedly sampled on Youtube.com, “Chinese Democracy” was so bad (does anyone have a “cluster”?), I had to vomit a little in my mouth. After he does such stupid things like firing his band members, getting arrested for inciting riots, and savagely breaking off his relationship with a famous supermodel, he still continues to blame the world and everyone…except himself. Maybe, before taking care of his pills and booze addictions, he needs to try to take the “douche” out of himself…This is just one out of a million (ironically, one of his most egotistic, racist rant songs) things that “rock stars” do and what their lives entail. Don’t be allured by the superficial. Get to know the details, not just what your mind figures is true. Not your fantasies. Autobiographies and biographies by reputable sources all point to the tragedy that is being a “rock star”. Any happiness they gain is followed by the same degree of accompanying pain. We spoke about that in earlier chapters. As we wrote, “change” is the one thing that doesn’t change. In music as in Hollywood you are only as great as your last song/movie. Fame is the most fickle thing of all. The public’s estimation and desires change, and today’s rock stars will be found shortly in the $1.00 bargain bin at your local Walmart store. Just beginning a list of the resulting life sufferings “rock stars” of Michael Jackson, Elvis Presley, Kurt Cobain, Whitney Houston… so numerous to list, it is like naming all of the constellations in the sky.
One of the true logical reason that happiness is not found there–that is associated with rock stars– is that they becoming so accustomed to their newfound “fame” and “money”. There is a psychological phenomena called “habituation” that is ever present in the minds of all human beings, as verified in lab studies. The new desirable fleeting fame and money…they get so used to it, that they often become bored, if not annoyed. The tragic life of Whitney Houston shows just that… just like the aforementioned Katy Perry, she found that singing was “just not fun” anymore. They get so used to an extravagant lifestyle that once the money runs out, and the fame winds down, they cannot accept the new reality. Their HUGE egos now must drop down to earth, and this cannot be done without the fire from depression and pain. As we discussed, once expectations are so lofty that they cannot be balanced with reality, deep suffering results.
So either they get bored and turn to drugs, or they burn through their cash at an alarming rate into financial destitution, or they end up in the nuthouse, they become “estranged” from their families, and loneliness often drives them to suicide or seclusion.
After some life learning, if I suddenly aquired a gift of playing the guitar, I’d stick only to playing in my church. If I got some new desires to “make it big” like a MTV rock star, I’d quicly smash the guitar to smithereens.
Perhaps the correct name of the Nickelback song should be “I DON’T Wanna Be a Rock Star”…