This may seem odd and counterintuitive, but you must accept that experiences of supreme ecstacies leave strange scars and a tremendous cost. This occurs by dulling our ordinary everyday pleasures. This is due to the fact that our opinions of our current happiness are relative to the normal range of prior experiences. Thus stay away from trying to gain superhigh experiences. Extreme physical sports are sort of fall into the “superhigh” category, the group of people I call “adrenaline junkies” who cave dive and bungee jump, also fall into the category of peak experiences.
I can also find no better example can I come up with than that of drugs. The dizzying highs that the drugs (mostly of the illegal type like cocaine) take a person to cannot be achieved regularly in everyday life. So your typical day will seem mundane and possibly boring as a result–once the effects of the drug wear off.
Therefore, the more “peak experiences” that you have, the more risk there is of making your present moments seem lacking. Avoid overly tempting “super highs”, there are risks associated with them. As the number of significant highs increase, so do the significant lows. It does not mean that you should seek after fun experiences. The key is moderation. Trying to recreate that “Spring Break Week” that you experienced as a teenager is sure to end in disappointment. This is what scientific studies also demonstrate.
In one interesting experiment, German adults were asked to write about their significant lows in an essay. Immediately after, they were assessed on a happiness scale and they rated themselves very positively. This can be ascribed to the fact that they felt better about their current situation when compared to their darkest hours. In the same experiment, the German adults were asked to describe their significant highs in an essay, then the same questions were asked. Interestingly, they were assessed with a much lower index of happiness. As the study author wrote, dwelling on your “Camelot” moments tended to make the present seem a bit pedestrian and undesirable.
Again, think of your daily occurrences as “stuff” that occurs above the surface of the waves. It is so busy, loud, and noisy on the surface. Try to go beneath the surfaces and into the depths of the sea, where it is so quiet.