Most important is to recognize that up to 90% of suffering is emotional. Perhaps just about 10% (if we can divide it this way) is physical suffering. Because of our advancements in science, we can mostly eradicate or minimize our physical suffering. As I write this, the temperatures in Chicago are passing the 100 degree Fahrenheit mark. It is so hot and humid…but because of “air conditioning”, the suffering which may come from such elevated temperatures are avoided. If your arm hurts, the suffering that comes from that may be alleviated by pain medication. But your mental and emotional suffering is another matter totally. It is our job to deal with the mental suffering as best as we can.
As for myself, suffering has been my grace and in a strange way has been a gift because it showed, and continues to show me where my attachments are. It is always your attachments to things that causes suffering. Where are your attachments now? Are they now to feed your ego? Your thirst for materialistic things? More respect at your job? Once your attachments fall away in the fire of your ego burning up, a calm you never knew existed will come over you.
After you have accepted the very worst case scenario in a situation, a supreme peace and happiness and grace will come over you. And definitely do not analyze your life when you are in a bad mood. Your bad mood is like a dark pair of sunglasses that will make everything you look at dark a gloomy. Dark sunglasses do not stay on forever. In fact, they do come off on its own. If you decide to analyze your life when you are in a bad mood, it is the worst thing you can do, because then every circumstance and every situation and even every object will seem dark and sad.
Wait until the dark sunglasses fall off, they will. For example just like dark storm clouds, they will pass.
Look for something to live on, live for, and die for.
A 19th century Polish poet wrote to be happy and not suffer, one needs
1) Something to live on
2) Something to live for
3) Something to die foor
He wrote the lack of one of the above will make your life a drama, and the lack of two will make your life a tragedy filled with great suffering.