Don’t escalate small arguments (mind battles) because your mind is a recorder, and try as you might, your mind cannot always hit the erase button after a heated battle or even a small battle. The memory of each and every fight or disagreement will cause you to suffer immensely. Of course, don’t be the proverbial “doormat” and acquiesce every time. But know that you have limited time and energy. Do take care in deciding where you will put your energy towards.
There are certainly battles to fight, but it doesn’t matter to fight over every slightest thing. Clearly, if you are an enlisted soldier and there are a bunch of soldier with bayonets rushing towards you, this is a battle you must fight with physical exertion. I will not discuss here about what I feel about war, but there are definitely times when you must do battle.
All I am saying is that you expend so much energy blindly fighting people on every single issue. You will end up exhausted, as will the person you are arguing with. And there will be no winner. Both sides end up with ground animosity, and thus the scarring will begin. It is hard to avoid such anger in your heart, once you are immersed in a bitter confrontation. Thus, it is best not to start. Since most arguments have no basis in reality and are as much a mental invention, choose to avoid most all battles, and pick only those with profound circumstances. I can think of one example which my friend spoke to me about whether he was going to keep a handgun in the house. If you know that such a thing is so dangerous to everyone, and you are his wife, then this may be a battle that you choose to fight with logic, and not with emotion. But if he really wants to eat at Kentucky Fried Chicken and you wish to eat at Popeye’s Chicken, it is best to acquiesce and not pick this battle to fight.
A British veteran once wrote, I don’t know what is worse, the sound of men’s screams in the sea at night when you cannot stop to pick them up or the sound of people’s voices complaining in the shops at home over having raisins in their cinnamon bread”. Pick your battles wisely.