Seeing negative things around the world and feeling depressed about them is another route to unhappiness and dissatisfaction. Remember the beauty and ponder the wonder of even a flower in your own garden. Contemplate the miracle that it is. The magic of the flower is not only in its physical beauty, but know the miracle of how it gives off a magical scent that attracts insects. See the beauty all around you. Taking this exercise will also help your general countenance and demeanor move toward gratitude.
If you focus on only the ugly, and make it a bad habit of doing so, you will become in a way the ugliness that you see. Your reality as I mentioned is created by your thoughts, which manifest as your present moments, which is all that you have…all that you can live in. If you are taking a walk through the woods and focus on piles of manure and the stench left by a dog, and ignore the rainbow shining through the trees, then your reality during the walk, which you live through, is ruined.
A famous saying is that “The supreme good of a person is his or her ability to see good everywhere”. Turn your internal compass towards the good around you. Jean Paul Sartre once wrote, “Hell is other people”. But the flip side is also true. “Heaven is other people.” It depends on what you choose to see in others. Everyone has a dark shadow to them and a bright shining light. Remember the times when you are in a mood to see the good in others, perhaps when you are having a good day and are inclined to see the good in others. Remember how much better your day went.
Another famous saying is “Every human being’s essential nature is perfect and faultless, but after years of immersion in the world, we easily forget our roots and take on a counterfeit nature.” Your misdeeds, your depression, your frustration, are really your own creation. Endeavor to find and see the beauty in the world and in others. Just take a moment, it is there. Observe it, and you will be able to forgive others who may be making your day difficult and your inner heart will assume a peaceful harmony.
On an aside, as we grow, don’t clutch onto the megalomaniac dreams of your childhood and adolescent. See the world as it is and live in the reality of your present moment. Live in the reality of diminished powers, of restricted freedoms and imperfect connections with the people you interact with on a daily basis. Remember there are two sides to every argument or confrontation. If you learn to accept and live in an imperfect world, you will go through the day with less interruptions to your equanimity.