Maybe if you are into this, then please keep it away from your own life if you don’t like being slapped in the face. Don’t be addicted to you own melodramas which you create for yourself and stop yourself when you find yourself taking yourself too seriously. Remember what I said before was that “seriousness is proportional to sadness”. If you become so serious, your highs and lows will be augmented. The highs will auger in the proportional lows, that is a law of psychology and is present even in physics. The Universe and God are fair. You will get an equal dose of unhappiness in proportional to your happiness. And never forget that you reap what you sow.
Note that the priests and monks, when they renounce pleasure, what they are really doing is renouncing pain. They know from thousands of years in history, that great pleasure come with great pain as a firm rule. Even they are not foolish enough to forgo pleasures by itself. They know that having so much gold and money, and working so hard to get a prestigious job comes with it a great deal of suffering. Many do not marry or have children either. Because they know through thousands of years of experience, that the joy children provide come with an equal dose of pain when they inevitably get into trouble and have needs like money and tuition for education. And no marriage is without its ups and downs.