Louise Hay, the wonderful author of many joyful self help books, wrote once that when you are in a heated argument with a loved one, imagine them as little innocent children. In a way, all of us are innocent children that have been in one way or another poisoned by Society. Usually when you hear of a murderer or a sociopath or a bully you hear about how they themselves had been beaten or bullied themselves, maybe even by their own father or uncle. Men and women who commit rape are shown to have be molested as children themselves. Children are taught to hate and to be annoyed at others and how to inflict to others their own miseries. Maybe one of the purposes of our lives is to become a child again, after we have learned our own painful lessons.
The next time you are angry at say your dad or mom, imagine them as little infants, cooing in their baby carriages. Imagine them innocently being genuinely afraid for you, and afraid you may make the same mistakes they made. Just imagine. The people around you, the people you are angry at, are down deep just the same as you are, trying to do their best and getting through this life.
Really try to understand others from their point of view. Nobody is out to “get you”. People are just trying to get through their own challenges. If you bump into them at the wrong situations and at the wrong moments, conflict arises. But the anger that you personally feel can be assuaged by imagining everyone just as innocent as you once were. Forgive others, just as people forgave you countless times when you yourself made a mistake. And forgiving “little children” is far “easier” than forgiving a grown adult.