The negative thoughts you have are just that…thoughts. And your thoughts on the future are no different. You can choose to believe in them or not. Choose the option: “or not”. Don’t try to pretend that you don’t have negative thoughts because you do and you will have those thoughts from time to time. Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra often quote in their lectures as both are doctors that the average person has 50,000 thoughts that go through their minds every single day. The problem with that is that it is the same thoughts as yesterday, and will be the same thoughts tomorrow. Many of these negative thoughts recycle themselves over and over again, day after day.
You nurture your negative thoughts, and nurse them like a baby, and the negative thoughts cloud the positive thoughts like that you see in a solar eclipse. There is then only darkness. Again, you have two choices when your mind bombards you with negative thoughts. You can choose to “think” more about your thoughts, which most do unconsciously. They may think to themselves about the rude customer service representative who they felt insulted them, or they may remember when they did something stupid and embarrassing like starting a small fire in their chemistry lab when they were in high school.
We all have painful memories like this, and they come up at the weirdest times, randomly. It may come while we are dreaming, in the shower getting ready for work, driving to work, at work, driving home from work, at the house preparing dinner, then eating dinner, during commercials while unwinding watching our favorite TV show, during a late evening walk, and in bed with our spouses.
We may be angry at someone close to us for what they said. We may say to ourselves, “How dare they?” or something close to that for how they reacted or what they said years ago. I have no idea why our brains do this to us, but I am sure it is tied subconsciously to our egos. When the storms (negative thoughts) come, imagine yourself as a plane heading into a dark storm. You have a choice, you can rise above the storm clouds (ignoring the thoughts), or you can do nothing but travel straight through them or underneath the clouds (which is the same thing). Doing this is analogous to getting lightening to strike your plane and for your plane to descend and maybe crash into the ground.
When you feel the storm clouds coming, stay in control and utilize any number of the infinite ways to redirect your mind to peace. If you choose to ignore the thoughts, then you are floating above the clouds, and you can see the sun shining again. Again, when you feel your mind creating and brewing a pot of negative thoughts, do something to change the channel. You can listen to music, go for a walk or jog or bike ride, spend some time in nature by a brook or stream, Pilates, Yoga, anything. Choose to redirect your negative thoughts instead of paying them any attention. The more attention you pay to them, you are in fact feeding them like putting manure on weeds in the hot sunshine.
For me, when I feel negative thoughts come, I put on my headphones, and blast some classic rock feel good music like from The Beatles or The Rolling Stones. Or, I read funny jokes on the Internet, or I watch a fun movie on the Internet. Putting attention onto your negative thoughts and forcing a replay of those thoughts are like nurturing a giant poison ivy plant in your garden. Don’t make the mistake of replaying sad events that have already passed. You replay a tough moment, say it was your last firing from a job that you loved.
Everyone remembers that. You are called into a room, maybe with your immediate supervisor and the store owner, and are told “we can’t use you anymore.” When this happens, your ego starts to bleed and thus like a slap in the face, you think to yourself so many thoughts all at once. “How could they? After all the work and difficulty I put up with?” “What could I have said to them? I should have told them off. No, I should not have done that, they may have called security on me…” “Maybe if I did not do this or that, then they wouldn’t have fired me.” And so on. And you remember as you walked out the look on people’s faces and your feeling humiliated.
As such, even far far into the future, you feel that familiar sting, and countless other events like it, and you feed into it and nurture the discomforting thoughts, as if you could go back in time and change it. Stop the madness! Just tune out, drop out, change the channel, but don’t pay any more attention to it. Calling all your friends and replaying the negative emotions will usually only heighten the pain and the brain’s ability to recall it. If you need to let it out and talk to a counselor or a friend, do so in moderation and with the reserve that you will only let your brain tackle the situation once, and never again. There are always old ancient sayings like “Let sleeping dogs lay.” Let the dead memories stay in their tombs. Don’t reawaken them. You do not need dead flesh eating zombies crawling all over your present consciousness.