Even on an evening of relaxation, you may visit the opera and see all the singing and dancing. But on that great stage, all the dancers and singers sound and look so good, because not only do they have talent, but they went to Juilliard and spent countless years crafting their art and refining their talent. But then after you get home, you look at your own upright piano, remember the incredible piece that the professional pianist performed, and give up your nightly piano practice.
You start to feel inadequate, mediocre, average, and plain ordinary…and thus unworthy. As we discussed, you may feel so depressed that you discontinue your own enjoyment practicing piano on your own. But as we discussed before, is there anything wrong with being ordinary? With everything trying so hard to be extraordinary, you will actually be very unique in trying to be ordinary, which is extraordinary.
But that again is a fiction that society has created and spread and which you chose to accept. Society asks people to be something they are not and which they cannot sustain. For example, it asks people to stay young and vibrant all the time. That is who we see in movies and television and advertisements: perfect hair, perfect smile, perfect body, perfect jobs. Who can rise to these expectations? Everyone grows old and sick, but that is never celebrated by those in power. Aging, an inevitable phenomena of everything under the sun (even the sun “ages” and will “die” someday, is viewed as if it is a disease. If you think about it, the absurdity is so pronounced that it “boggles” the mind. Rather, society is asking us to stay young, but that is a fiction and an impossibility. Change is inevitable, and there is nothing inherently wrong or ugly about aging. But our society has convinced us that the elderly are not of value to its citizens, no longer attractive, and that forces inevitable misery amongst all, because aging is an absolute certainty.