Look back on your thoughts of today at bedtime, and you will likely notice that is filled with fears and feelings of uncertainty. Society fills you daily with feelings of inadequacy through their advertising, as soon as you start your day driving down the expressway and turn the radio on and hear all the advertising between the songs.
At work, there will be constant deadlines, many of which you did not or cannot meet. There will be sales goals that are imposed which you know you won’t be able to satisfy. There are people above you who bark orders at you all day long. Maybe then because of all your work you missed your son’s piano recital. This is all so stressful, I must admit, but see it as it is, and not worse than they already are.
Now, after each and every tough day that modern society imposes upon us, through demanding long hours at the office, TV shows that are fiction but yet support a perfect family life, advertising for things like Tiffany jewelry… you may start to feel guilty about it all because you are not able to afford them for your loving and faithful wife at home with the kids. You must be a bad father (you may tell yourself), because you again missed his piano recital. As you come home from work, taking the train home, you read another story about how some son helped his parents by paying for their cruise line tickets.
Then more guilt arises. You read stories about people who are the movers and shakers in your line of business, and you feel like an underachiever because your career path is far less in the path to trajectory to ultimate success. You read about some C.E.O. in your company makng $12 million dollars per year, while you receive but a fraction. You wish you could be the CEO, and then more discontent arises.
So it goes that you feel that yourself a failure in life, as a husband, a father, a brother, a son, a worker, a citizen, everything. You convince yourself that nothing is going to change, and that you feel frustrated, angry, hopeless, and all the other litany of emotions that bring you down. Then, we you get home, you are barely there for your family, because you already feel like a bad parent or husband. Since society has set the bar infinitely high, you have convinced yourself of the false reality that you are a failure.
But this is again a fiction and a feeling based on thoughts which you have chosen to believe. There is no grounding in reality based on the facts. The facts are: You are not the CEO. You may possibly be the CEO in the future, depending on many different circumstances, but it is basically out of your control. You earn what you earn and may or may not be promoted based on even more factors which are out of your control. If you have a random feeling or envy over the CEO’s pay, it is just your “soulful suffering” that is emerging to bring you down. The facts are simply neutral. Stick to the facts, and accept them. Don’t bring your emotions into the picture and your radar screen.