Did you ever remember how wonderful you felt after you did something great for someone that really made their day? Every one of us had that kind of experience many times. But if we are in a depressed mood, we tend to forget all the kindness that we have done and only wallow in our sorrows and the things that we did wrong and what others have done to us.
It is a peculiar way our brain is developed. Many of us tend to have those “Ouch!” moments when we recall all of our past misdeeds. But we tend to forget all the wonderful things that we have done for others. Even though it goes against many of my teachings, “Do not let your left hand know the good that the right hand has done”, I sometimes journal in my book some of the righteous actions that I have done in my past. I do this not to gloat to myself, nor do I ever show this journal (little green book) to others. But sometimes I reflect on it to know that in my own heart, there is an abundance of love and compassion.
For example, one of my happiest moments was when I was in the parking lot of the local Barnes n’ Noble and saw a couple of elderly ladies confused and walking up and down the parking lot looking lost. It was winter outside and I immediately noted that they must be in pain due to the cold winds and uncomfortable because they could not remember where they parked their car. So I immediately drove over to them and asked them to get in my car.
We drove up and down until we found their car and they were so grateful to me. I felt so much love and kindness from them, and I was in a good mood and so my ability to have peace echoed throughout the days afterwards. It seemed but a minor act, but it meant so much for the other ladies. It is but one of my entries in my journal, and I will only write one to illustrate that all of us have done similar acts of kindness and goodness. But we forgot about those, and our minds often act as an enemy in reminding us only of our shortcomings.
We will remember the sting of painful memories when we were found doing something against the law and being caught or being caught cheating or lying or any number of sins against society and those we love. The times when we were unkind to our loved ones we remember with acute pain. And those nagging thoughts creep up on us all the time. If you are like the common people with this uncanny ability to remember in vivid detail all your painful moments and forget how many wonderful things you have done for your fellow man, keep a journal and occasionally read it to recognize all the good that you have done.