Sometime in your day, preferably early on, while stuck in morning traffic, be thankful to those who have been of help to you. Offer up to them a silent prayer. Not only will it make you feel good, but it will also set up your day whilst you are centered. If you start your day feeling good after all the things you admitted to yourself that you are grateful for: 1) Like having a roof over your head, 2) Enough money to pay the bills, 3) Food in your stomach, 4) A loving family, 5) Good Health, 6) Living in a Free Country (America), 7) You had recent happy moments in your life, etc. etc. then you start the day grateful for your own life and are more tolerant to those around you.
So in the example above, if you are driving in morning traffic and someone cuts you off, by starting the day on the right foot (being grateful and happy), you have already built a “moat” around your castle (space around your mind), so you will not knee jerk react with a honk, stare, and a hope that he/she gets into an accident or worse. Instead, you may just wave them ahead of you and feel nothing at being cut off in traffic. I cannot stress that enough, you need to always keep your mind in a calm state. That is the key to living among our society but not IN it. When I feel stressed in traffic, I count slowly from one to ten and breathe quietly and mindfully.
There are so many things that can derail you during the day, and the most extreme cases we see on the evening news. And as we mentioned, the bad news and bad feelings escalate. Let’s say you did not practice the meditation of gratitude and calming your mind in the morning and that same driver cut you off. Since you were “not centered”, you may react with anger and hostility. You may even honk and tail-gate his car and then cause an accident. Both of you get out of your car and you scream and shout and even hit one another. Maybe someone will push someone into traffic and then YOU may end up in the evening news and in jail. All because you did not practice a morning meditation involving gratitude.
Children are always taught to say thank you and routinely during their prayers, their mothers tell them to say thank you for all the things that day they were grateful for. Do so likewise for yourself as you do for your children. Take a few minutes every morning and say prayers of gratitude for your life. You will then make your “moat” ever so much larger, and thus be able to withstand an onslaught of enemy attacks (in real world cases, negative events).