Another thing you can learn from children is that they have no expectations of the way things “ought to be”. And the absence of those expectations is yet another reason you see so much joy on the faces of smiling children. As adults, if you go to a McDonald’s and are supposed to get your coffee piping hot and fresh and it isn’t so, we become disappointed and frustrated. But if you watch children at McDonald’s, there is no such dark feelings. If they have to wait for a new basket of fries to be made, they will wait the three minutes without groaning.
If the local pizzeria Domino’s Pizza promises a fresh pizza delivered in 30 mins or less and 35 minutes goes by, a child waiting for the pizza doesn’t think to call the store manager and complain. But adults do. They feel that there must be someone who must be penalized for the error, and they feel slighted. Things ought to be “perfect” and/or “fair” in an adult’s world. They have been told how things run and ought to run, and this is what causes them to become so unsettled and unhappy.
If you see a child at the McDonald’s, and his happy meal toy that is on the display case is not available, he just says “ohhwww” for one second and then when you give another one he or she is just as delighted, even if it is the same one he has. But the parents think everything should be perfect, and I had a customer say to me that if it is in the display case it SHOULD be available and asked me and then the manager to remove the entire display case and give the toy to his son.
There has never been a “should be” person who had equanimity and peace surrounding him. He or she goes though the day unsettled, as he sees the way things ought to be and of course the universe has no obligation to see to his desires and whim. They cannot be thankful of what they have and what the situation is. They think things should be optimal, and that is never found in our world. As such, if one cannot find what they are desperately seeking for, they suffer.