Go back to your inner child, celebrate as often as possible: sing, dance, make jokes, and remember to dance to your own rhythms and march to your own drummer. There is the classic song, “Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream…” So the magical verse which you likely never thought of is row, row, row your boat (not someone else’s), gently (not in a hurried fashion), down (not upstream), the stream, merrily merrily merrily, merrily, (not unhappily), live is but a dream.
Now, here you will ask then if you employ all these philosophies of dis-attachment as you did when you were just a child, then why didn’t you do it sooner? Did you have to suffer at all? Was it really necessary? The answer is paradoxically yes and no. If you did not suffer as much as you did, your soul would possess no depth, no love, no compassion, and no humility. Once your compassion arises, you will be capable of affecting the entire humanity with joy and bliss. Know that your true salvation is to be free of negative thoughts, and as we saw what Thoreau (and great works like the Bible) was saying, forget everything about the past and don’t worrying about the future.
Did you ever remember how generous you could be as a young child? You would give away candy and gifts spontaneously. Remember how good it felt to do random acts of giving? Now, as an adult, you are immersed in anxiety about the future. But this is what Society has told you to do. Society took away your innocence. You withhold giving because you are worried if you can pay your taxes or your water bill and your rent and your monthly car payment.
Now, as an adult you have learned selfishness (A lot of it involves your attachment to money). Someone once said, “If you want to know the value of money, go out and try borrowing some.” Do you now feel the grimace on your face whenever someone asks you for anything, especially money? Isn’t it more painful to grasp onto your belongings instead of practicing the joy of giving? It does not have to be a monetary gift if you cannot afford it. It could be just a compliment or a sincere smile of “hello”.
You could make a little paper collage and give it to your co-worker, or you could give even a few cents to someone at the cash register if they don’t have enough money to buy something like bread for their family. I noticed once as I worked for Walmart as a cashier when a lady did not have enough money for milk as she passed the checkout lane. She asked me to put the milk back on the shelves, but a nice lady behind her offered to pay for it.
It was only just one dollar or less but can you imagine how grateful the first woman was at the act of generosity? She likely was nicer if someone later cut her off a lane as she drove home. You paid the good act forward. Instead of honking and grimacing (had she not received the kind act), she maybe smiled and let another car in. Acts of kindness echoes just like that in a cave. The acts are full of energy, and like an echo bounces off the walls as it travels down the cave tunnel. Pass it forward, no act of kindness is ignored by God and the Universe.