Much of their stressors come from the way they think. They exhibit “knee jerk” reactions and utter hopeless phrases like “Why me?” and “If only…” which can only lead to negative thoughts and a path to self pity.
Adults so often focus on the obsession to “be right”, and argue needlessly to try to correct others’ thinking which is futile. Your way of thinking and your philosophy works for you, you need not try to change the thinking of others. To make things simple, try to smile when others try to correct you and just say “thank you, I’ll think about what you said,” and just drop the subject. Don’t be drawn into their drama. Don’t start an argument. And do not blame others for insignificant things.
Most of the blame game is just that…but a game with no winners. There is a powerful need for one spouse to blame the other spouse on everything that goes wrong. People complain to others and maybe their spouse, but they have to realize that the other parties do not really care, even those especially close to you. They have their own problems and either do not care, or are glad that they don’t have your problem.
The best thing is just to take a few deep breaths, and let it go.