Do not judge anything that happens to you, simply accept it, and then you will enter into a conscious alignment with the universe. Every single event, however insignificant it seems and however infinitesimally small it seems, has infinite consequences and fits into the pattern of the universe wisely and perfectly. It is you and your mind that will see it and make it a tragedy if you are not in alignment.
Consider the classic example of if you are part of a football team and say you are the kicker in a tight game in overtime in the playoffs, say the last game of a championship game. Say you kick and then you miss the field goal and your team loses. For you, it is a tragedy. But that event, is not a tragedy overall in the universe because someone on the other team is just as happy he was able to block the football and win the game. For you, you are the tragedy. But equally for him, he is the hero of the game. So, you can see that this is a zero sum situation. One team celebrates, the other team mourns. There is no “tragedy” here. It is only from your own perspective that a tragedy occurred. Half the crowd celebrates, half the crowd mourns. It is only your perception of the event that has turned a missed kick into a tragedy.
This reminds me of the U2 song, Stuck in a Moment. It recites the words, “You’ve got to get yourself together, you got stuck in a moment, that you can’t get out of”… The music video to this song is the same scenario that I painted above. A kicker is replaying the missed kick and suffering all along again and again. He is shown taking off his helmet, looking around at the stadium, and at 2:24 into the video, shouting in misery and looking up at the sky. He replays the scene over and over, and kickholder suddenly becomes a young African male and then the kickholder becomes the school’s mascot. He is shown “What if?” too. He is shown kicking the ball with his left foot. He may be thinking, “What if I kicked the ball with my left foot, would it have made any difference? Over and over he suffering, quite needlessly. But the song ends with the classic words, “And if the night runs over, and if the day won’t last, and if your way should falter along this stormy path, It’s just a moment, this time will pass”. “This too shall pass”, are four of the wisest words you can live by.
Stop hitting the replay button of your past over and over again in your mind. It is useless, pointless, and most of all, it is based on a fiction. It is not a reality. You are living in the present. You are believing your own thoughts that the “missed kick” is a tragedy when it fact it means nothing. Nothing at all. It is your mind that is creating the tragedy and replaying the suffering over and over again.
The end of the video shows the football player eventually working for the U.S. Post Office, and then kicking the field goal successfully, with nobody in the stadium watching. He realizes then, that it all did not matter… in the end. It was the artificial circumstance, the audience, his fellow teammates and other peoples’ teammates that caused all this trouble in his mind. The trouble he created in his mind was all his own doing, and had nothing with the Universe or Fate or God tormenting him. Know the Cosmos is after you and that you are not a target.
One Budda-natured master when asked what was his secret to his apparent longevity and health and mental peace, he replied simply, “I don’t mind whatever happens.” His inner acceptance with “What IS” was his message. So let it be, when your actions are aligned with the present moment, you are approaching a Zen state.