Society gives you the ego, so leave society! Step by step. No society really values its individuals as long as the larger Society accomplishes what it needs But it is not easy to escape society. Being obedient to the status quo makes you a slave to Society–is like a glue that makes individuals dependent on each other. Everyone is “improving” their personality to fit Society’s mold, which is a crazy thing. Try not to become part of the mob. Since you are likely living in modern society now, know that you really need not renounce society completely if you mentally cannot, but with a trained mind, you can stay right where you are. But you MUST evolve. When confronted with difficulty, think of it positively as a discipline from God or the Universe, whichever you believe in.
Recall the quote from the Bible: “Endure hardship as discipline. God is treating you as one of His children. What son isn’t disciplined by his father? If you are NOT disciplined, you are NOT his children. Our fathers disciplined us for awhile as He thought best. God disciplines us for our good that we may share in His Holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. But later on, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
Embrace the axiom that a group of individuals can have a collective mind (which can be VERY dangerous, just ask the Germans during WWII). A group can have that collective mind / group dynamics, but not an individual soul. In the army for example, you will find that individual people have lost their minds completely.