Remember always that you are NOT your life story, you are NOT your negative thoughts. Mark Twain, at the end of his life, wrote that “I have known a great many troubles, and most of them never existed.” Don’t identify with your thoughts. Endeavor to reach non identification and stand aloof and apart, as if they are someone else’s thoughts. Be indifferent when negative thoughts arise, just watch them until they leave.
Your thoughts need a certain distance, like your face as you look in the mirror. If you stick your nose onto the mirror and try to see your face, you will not be able to see anything, except maybe your eyes. Once you drift further away from the mirror, you are able to see the whole picture, and peacefulness follows. Anger makes you angry. Lust makes you lustful. Bitterness makes you bitter. Greed makes you greedy. Seek to forgo those negative emotions.
Focusing on the negative emotions from too close a distance tricks your brain into thinking they are one…you negative mind and your thoughts. When you are so close, you are bound to think that you and your negative thoughts are one in the same, and this creates a separation.
The larger the distance you gather, the less energy your negative thoughts get from you, and without you putting in the energy, the negative emotions disperse like the wind, and you will have the first glimpses of “no mind”, just awareness, just as when you were an innocent child.