The power process being successfully achieved as described is being able to set s realistic goal, exerting proper effort to achieve the goal, and finally attaining the goal. Today’s society has far too many Category 3 situations. Main stream media sets expectations so high, everyone is desperate to worker higher and harder towards unrealistic goals.
There are so many examples of these Category Three situations that one begins to wonder where to begin. For females, simply, to be a mother today entails working in a career (as a typical household has two incomes), to be a gentle mother, and a loving wife, and maintaining a reputation and fashion sense around her girlfriends. Add to this other self directed goals like being a good sister, churchgoer, daughter to an aging father. All at once, Society has set unreasonable Category Three situations before us for females.
For males, there is an equal problem. Men are expected to be good listeners and companions with their spouses, expected to be good fathers and role models to their sons and daughters, to be good sons and brothers, and have a successful career on top of that. Just aiming to be a “director” won’t do. Society asks each individual and rewards them if they are the top of the ladder, in a business… a CEO. But how many can become a CEO? (only one in the company). And how long will it take to become a CEO? (all their life, there are few “young” CEOs).
This is not the end of it all. Everyone living within Society, if they listen and abide and are sold by Society’s whims, are wealthy, successful, gained fame in their respective careers, stay young, stay healthy and fit (go to the gym), stay happy and cheerful at all times. And on top of all that be good looking… as the ideal.
How many people can realistically achieve all the above? Nobody…
Therein lies the source of modern man’s ills. As Sigmund Freud wrote, “Life is filled too much with impossible task”s, which society imposes on its members. Take any career today. A nurse perhaps…asked to see so many patients and do unlimited tasks to take care of them while working shift work which hampers their sleep, and working long shifts at the hospital which hurts their backs, knees…their entire bodies. Take for another example a teacher.
On relatively low pay, teachers are asked to work very long hours grading papers, tutoring students one on one who are falling behind, filling out report cards and other duties they are not even being paid for, while enduring the wrath of the parents who want perfection from the teacher’s methods. Add to that the principal and the state which demands that teachers have their students achieve at a certain level or standardized score. It was read by me that the average life of a Chicago Public School teacher is only five years… This is after they spent four years at a college, and three years gaining their master’s degree. They worked so hard for wonderful goals, but are driven to the point of resignation because of Society’s expectations.
We can write another book here too, on all the occupations and Society’s unrealistic expectations, which cause both physical and emotional stress on its citizens. Yet another occupation, such as an entertainer, requires them to look picture perfect everywhere and anytime lest there is a paparazzi who snaps their photograph. They are expected to sign autographs and present themselves in many public showings of their work when they do not desire such actions. Who can look perfect and act perfect all of the time? Society expects this of its citizens, which is maybe one of the causes of seeing so much drug use and therapists to the movie stars in our respective eras.
Consider another such “goal” which is simply absurd as it applies to women, as you think about it. Many females have it as a goal to have an attractive bikini body by the summertime. Even if a woman could have even the time required to maintain a regime of exercise required to achieve a “slender” physique, and the discipline to maintain the healthy diet and avoid all sweets, the “ideal” is nearly impossible to achieve since much of Society’s requirements of such an “ideal” figure entails a skeletal frame which is tall, with rounded hips, provocatively sized breasts, and so forth that the woman aspiring to look great on the beach made not be even born with. A female cannot choose the genes that she is born with, and yet Society makes her feel bad if she cannot conform to a certain standard.