If sincere love is devoid from a person’s childhood, then the person likely will become either a criminal or a politician. That much is certain. Or he may become psychotic, or seek to destroy things. He will not know how to create things, or to find meaning. He or she will feel like a condemned person, since if you are not loved, you will not feel your own worth. The second someone loves you, really loves you, you feel worthy of returning that love to others.
All those years of our society telling you that sex is wrong results in the opposite feeling..sex becoming taboo and even more desirable. It is horrible… the result. What happens is that you then start fantasizing. And that is so negative. In your fantasies the women always stay young, never nag, always are like ripe golden fruit. They never sweat, they never fart, they never have bad breath.
Your expectations have risen and stay at an unreasonable level. When you do start looking for that Prince Charming or Princess Charming, you are bound to be disappointed if you grow up in our modern society. The array of clothes in the store are there to support men’s and women’s fantasy. If they are covered up, you can start to imagine and fantasize again, and that is when the trouble starts. Anytime you start fantasizing about the opposite sex, or about money, or about power, or anything of desire, that is where your suffering will begin.
Think about why you do seek after power…to influence others and call attention to yourself. Possibly because whatever you are doing is not well respected. For example, a cashier at Walmart is not as respected as the president of Walmart Well, he may be a better cashier than the president of Walmart is the president. But yet he seeks after the loftier position because society has poisoned his thoughts to make him feel inferior if he chooses or has no choice to be in the “lower position.” If everyone is respected as he is, you will be cutting through much of the roots of evil, greed, and envy. Again, if society respected everyone equally, so much of the misery of individuals would be eliminated!
Listen, all of us are living in horrible circumstances because of modern society. There are injustices everywhere. To maintain this injustice, we have armies of police, judges, lawyers, etc. Those professions are so bland and dry and purposeless. What lawyer does not wish to become a painter or musician at heart? And he will feel so much frustration. And his negative feelings have energy, just as positive feelings do. And these negative feelings, they are wasting your life. It is like a garden hose that is leaking water. The stream is making it unable for you to put water in your garden. Thus, your flowers cannot bloom.
Most people, to give an analogy, remain as larvae like a caterpillar. They never blossom into butterflies. It is an interesting analogy. Of butterfly larvae, less than 1% blossom into butterflies eventually. It is such a sad state of affairs. Thus, it explains why there is so little joy and so much misery in your life. As it notes in the Bible and other philosophical texts, unless you become a child again, unless you become a butterfly, you won’t be able to understand and find happiness.