Real joy and happiness is totally natural. You are born with it and bring it into the world. Every small child brings this joy into the world, but then Society grabs the child and shakes all the joy out of him or her. They start programming the child, they start conditioning the child for unhappiness. The monster of Society is basically very neurotic, and it really does not want happy people in it. It rather wants obedient people. As I wrote before, they basically want slaves. If a person is happy AND obedient, then Society I suppose won’t complain too much, but if you are happy but not too obedient, then society will be very upset and angry with you.
Mostly, Society is afraid of happy people because to a large degree, happy people are not too obedient. Being truly happy is to be free. But society really doesn’t care if you are happy or not. All it basically wants is for you to obey its rules and work really really hard and burn yourself down to the ground doing so. After your useful life is gone, Society merely tosses you away and ignores you. Society wants you o pay a lot of taxes… Society is not entirely evil though intentionally. When you are really old, it will make sure you don’t starve to death and it will give you basic health care. But will it really honor you? No, not really. In modern society, the old is equated with uselessness. Our modern society: Old = Useless.
What IS prized in our modern society is the young, the fit, the strong, the productive, the good looking, the unbridled ambitious (older folks know better and are more prudent), and the ones who sacrifice themselves to feed Society’s machine. Everyone else is labeled as old, handicapped, or just plain stupid…thus worthless. Don’t be misled. Look at our magazine covers, the ordinary are never praised. All you see are young models, actresses, celebrities like Prince Harry and Prince William, reality starts like Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian who can continuously push up the GDP of this country by the sale of more magazines and ad-space.
Because everyone in our society is so greedy, everyone is so afraid of being overpowered by other people. So another neurosis begins where people become obsessed with power. They are so afraid of becoming powerless that all they can think of is becoming more powerful, and to show that power over other people. The modern western society way of acting is to attack first. They say the best defense is a good offense. So all the so called powerful people in this world are deep down really insecure people, so deathly afraid that if they don’t succeed in being “better” than others someone else is going to dominate them. So their thinking is, “Why not better another first instead of possibly being bettered myself?” Citizens always cry out, “I don’t want to be left behind!”
Once a people really reach a state of enlightenment, they will not easily become attached to any political party or extreme movement. It is only the ones who are so insecure of themselves that cry out for some attachment to something outside themselves. A truly happy person will radiate joy and love and being a beacon for others to feel the same and seek freedom.
A truly strange phenomenon is how often parents like to say “No!” to their children. I have observed this so many times through my own life. Parents are constantly telling their children “No!” “No!” “No!” and making the children feel guilty about everything and anything. Soon the child is conditioned to think that anything he or she feels happy or joyful about must be wrong. Invariably he starts to feel that to be miserable and unhappy is the right way to be, and to be happy is the wrong door to enter.
This association will haunt him for the rest of his or her life. For instance, if he takes a toy and takes it apart, his parents may tell him, “No!” “That is wrong!” “What a terrible thing you have done!” and more and more ridiculous assertions. His curiosity has been squashed, and he was made to feel guilty because of his natural curiosity. He, at such an early age, will stop inquiring. He will stop searching for truth.
So the nightmare continues into his adulthood. When the child is not hungry and if he refuses to eat, his or her mother tells him, “No!” “It is time to eat”. Even if the child is not hungry, he or she is forced to stuff food into their mouths, gagging down on food he or she has no desire to eat. When the child is a bit tired in the morning, he or she is yelled at to “Get up now!” and so his dreams are interrupted and he thus drags himself out of bed.
At night, at times, he is wide awake and wants to enjoy looking at the beautiful night sky. But his mother yells at him, “No!” “You must go to sleep NOW!” and so the child is terrorized. But how can sleep be thus forced? In this process, the mother is listening to society and slowly destroying any possibility the child has for long lasting happiness. What he delights in, he is usually told how wrong it is to move astray from society’s teachings.
The things that the child feels that makes him spontaneously happy is told is wrong, and the things that make him feel bored with is labeled as “right”. If a child delights in seeing a bluejay outside the classroom singing, and he pays more attention to it than the English teacher who has “power” over him, he is told he is a terrible child and should be disciplined. The bluejay has no power. But at least the bluejay possesses such extraordinary beauty. So the consciousness of the child moves to the bluejay, but the teacher wields the power of sending the child to the principal, so the child looks back to the teacher. But there is something wrong now. Now he is just pretending. He is playing a game of pretend so his parents will not be called.
The child is taught that spontaneous joy is wrong, is sinful. When a child discovers his or her own body, he or she is told how immoral they are of touching themselves. This makes society so neurotic, but then all of society is so neurotic. The exact same thing was done to those parents who are now horribly oppressing their own offspring. So each generation spreads their own brand of venom to the next generation.
But an odd thing through happens when people start really praying and meditating well. They begin to actually feel happy and relieved, but somehow guilty. They have been programmed by society to experience guilt whenever they feel too happy. If they are not feeling guilty about something, then their conscience must not be active enough. If they are feeling guilty, then it was a proper reaction. If a person feels miserable, death seems to promise liberation. And misery allows people to feel rage, anger, and allows them to kill at society’s will.
Unless you become enlightened in this lifetime, you are doomed to be a slave to society’s hypnosis. You have to realize why it exists in the first place and how it came about. After this, you are able to escape it. If you cannot escape society, you will never achieve bliss and joy in this life, you will never sing the songs you were born to sing. You will die with the song still inside you. As Henry David Thoreu wrote, “Most men live lives of quiet desperation, and die with the song still inside them.” Basically you will die without ever having lived. (A line from the movie Braveheart, “All men die, not all men really live.”)