Just remember that there are three levels of suffering: 1) Outright physical and mental pain like from a headache or leg sprain, 2) Suffering from Change. Remember that whatever is at first pleasant always becomes painful, often in the exact same proportion. To illustrate an example can you provide me with a single example where doing something involving pleasure does not eventually turn into either suffering or boredom? Things like eating, drinking, or talking with a friend, they all seem enjoyable at first, but if you engage in them all the time, they become annoying or even outright painful. Or boring.
Think about your own life, don’t just take my word for it. Take examples from your own life to understand the dilemma. A house guest that you welcomed at first, after a few days, doesn’t it lead to annoyance? Once, to illustrate my own example, when I first came to Chicago, I tasted a “deep dish Chicago style pizza”. It was so delicious, I just went to work for the pizzeria so that I could eat the free pizza. I ate Eduardo’s Pizza every day, breakfast, lunch, and then dinner for two months. Afterwards, I became so sick and tired of the pizza that groaned just looking at the cheese. I did not eat pizza for many years. Utimately, ordinary pleasures ALWAY fade, they are temporary and unstable, and are always followed by pain (or boredom), usually in the exact same proportion.
Even a most wonderous drug like cocaine is most certainly followed by pain in the proportion that the addict felt the pleasure. The drug makes you rise up, and then you come crashing down just as low as you experienced how high you went. Pleasure when extended too much always changes to pain. 3) The suffering of pervasive conditioning: What this means is that our minds work under the destructive emotions of passions, lust, envy, and hatred. Even completely neutral feelings are influenced by events beyond our control and thus are at all the root levels of suffering. Basically what you should strive for is an unattached, compassionate heart that is altruistic and seeks to help those other than yourself. Keep in mind that doing things for others is of paramount importance to extend your levels of happiness and duration of happiness. Helping others become happy is another cornerstone of achieving steady joy. Just sitting around and not helping others while just helping yourself is a terrible infraction in and of itself. As you grow in God consciousness (those qualities involving love, kindness, honesty, compassion) and become one with the universe, you will start doing kind actions without even thinking twice.