If you use only the mind (your society’s social conscience) and not your heart, you cannot determine what is right and wrong with any clarity. You will constantly over think and come up with a million scenarios over what can be good or bad in whatever situation. Thus, your mind will become very confused. Your ridiculous mind is dependent on society because the mind is like a fat baby who constantly needs its milk. I would go close to saying Society is basically a disease. Not unequivocally, because Society has done many things to help its citizens, like Social Security Income and national highways, parks and recreation, and public libraries. But how do these compare with poisoning the minds of its citizens. Often, Society upholds deplorable value systems and beliefs that are passed on from generation to generation, like dwarfism or cystic fibrosis. When you seek truth, you must find it within yourself and with God (as defined in all religions starting with the golden rules that all major religions share, like love and kindness). Without using your heart, it is like you have been standing on a beach as a sea turtle, never entering the ocean. Once you enter the water by using your heart, you will come to such a realization, you will become humbled. So, let the light shine in. As the Dalai Lama wrote, enlightenment comes whenever a drop of water on a wave realizes it is just part of the entire ocean. The drop of water on the wave doesn’t put forth effort, it simply has a pure, choiceless, effortless, existence grounded in love and compassion. The awakening inside you allows you to effortlessly see things as they are. There is no arising of thinking and making difficult choices simply based on what you think Society approves of or disapproves of. Using your heart allows you to transcend the bigotry that Society often espouses. For example, as I write, the U.S. President, Barack Obama is showing all tolerance towards homosexuals. It used to be that all of Society thought homosexuality is an abomination against God. Luckily, Society is now changing its stance and being increasingly tolerant, like many states like Massachusetts allowing gay marriage. If you were one to use your heart in pure consciousness, being awaken in love and kindness, then you would have a head start and act more kindly, earlier, than your fellow citizens.

The conscienceness that arises when you realize you are a pure drop of water on that wave that is part of the entire ocean allows you to have such a blissful peace and love and luminosity that you cannot positively do anything harmful to anyone, including yourself, including your own body and your own psyche.  Your radiance will shine forth so bright, that there will no question of good vs. evil.  None whatsoever.  There is the same awareness that you are one with the entire universe, and all of time–backwards and forwards.  If you plant seeds of love and kindness in your heart from the beginning of any thought, the actions that come forth will be one of joy and light.


Then your actions will, like the fruit from a mature tree, give forth ripe beautiful fruit, your thoughts will exert poetry, and your silence will become so deep, so full of bliss, and this bliss you give off will spread to everyone around you.  Once you achieve this, this explosion of calmness and love will be the only noticeable sign that you have awakened.  Everyone who is around you will notice this and will therefore get a sample of the wonderful universe that is possible.  This feeling will be unmistakable.  It is like if half of your body was paralyzed in a car accident and then suddenly you can move that half of your body again.  Or if you were color blind and could suddenly see call the bright colors.  It is unmistakable.  Once you start to awaken, it will be clear to you what to do and what to think.


But you have to start with your heart.  And you have to start by planting healthy seeds of love and compassion, not seeds of competition and comparison—which will only lead to dissatisfaction.  As we discussion, the paradigm, or model, or system of thinking grounded in competition and comparison is like finding a corner in a circle, it is a never ending search.  Remember again that any action first begins as a thought in your mind, so if you plant seeds of love and kindness, the fruits resembling love and kindness will sprout forth. 


A good analogy is if you plant apple seeds, you will never get an orange tree.  How can you get a tree that blooms oranges if you plant apple seeds?  If you plant seeds of competition and comparison, you will only get the fruits that competition and comparison will bring, like greed and envy and covetousness.  So be really careful what you decide to think about.  It starts with a seed.  Plant a seed of love.  Then your thinking will comprise and show and have the characteristics of love, and then your actions will echo those involving love, kindness, and compassion.


If you sow seeds of comparison and competition, which Society plants in you and in young children instead of the seeds of love and kindness, then you get everything that is wrong in Society, like greed which leads to stealing and theft, envy which leads to dishonesty, and hate which can even result in murder. 



About youngkim3000

I grew up in Virginia and went to a top tier high school, being so ambitious and wanting fame and fortune like the next kid. I received good grades and then I went off to the University of Chicago where I majored in Psychology and Economics. After a brief but successful "Wall Street" career, I realized that I was not happy and left thinking that a career in the medical field would satisfy me. Then, I did some post Bac work at Northwestern and UIC, and then ended up at UIC Medical School. The problem was I was not happy there either. The structure, the repetition, and lack of being able to be free and spontaneously creative really knocked me down. Having to be subject to constant subjective evaluations sucked my soul dry. As I sought another chapter in my life, then came the financial collapse of 2008-9 which destroyed the "nest egg" and saving that I had worked so hard to build after college--which I so "identified with". I was so depressed at the loss of career and the loss of money that I fell into self pity and a deep seated depression. For weeks on end, I could not even get out of bed. I went to many doctors who could not really help me. I took so much anti-depressant medication and also self medicated with alcohol to dull my mind. One day though, I went to the public library in Niles, IL, and picked up some books on "Self-Help". I figured what do I have to lose? I was already so depressed I could barely get through a day. I picked up books by Wayne Dyer (Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life), Deepak Chopra, Louis Hay, Ram Dass, Osho, and Eckhart Tolle (A New Earth), The Dalai Lama, and revisited my faith in Catholicism. I devoured so many books to unearth just why I was suffering so much. I learned so much about myself and realized that my deep suffering was actually a gift for me to discover myself. Simply put, those words in those books saved my life. I was taking so many drugs and my physical health was in serious jeopardy. I realized that I could not live with myself any longer, and I needed to be free. I realized...that it was my own thoughts that were making me so depressed, as was my own "life story" that I replayed over and over. I realized that my mind was busy creating negative thoughts. Thoughts are "things" and expand. I understood that you do not "normally" choose your thoughts. Just like the digestion of a meal, the mind automatically creates all kinds of thoughts whether you like it or not. Just like you do not "choose" to breathe with your lungs or "choose" to make urine from your kidneys, you "normally" do not "choose" your own thoughts. They just happen, just like digestion. And if you had a bad experience, your mind recreates the negative thoughts without your conscious consent but you are forced to relive them endless times per day. It is only through CONSCIOUS INTERVENTION that you can make your mind change course from recycling negative thoughts. This is just like your breathing. You breathe automatically, but you CAN choose to influence your breathing, you can hold your breath if you are going to dive deep in the water, or you can consciously "slow down" your breath if you are relaxing in meditation and prayer. Once I realized I did in fact have an ability to control my thoughts, I consciously redirected the thoughts to positive uplifting notions. I noted that I had built such a large ego that the collapse of it dragged me down in catastrophic fashion. A big ego is different from self esteem. Both were destroyed, but I learned to regain self esteem through positive affirmations and knowing that the negative thoughts are not reality. I was choosing definitively to live in the past via my repetitive thoughts. I was also choosing to live in an uncertain future that I painted with dreadful possibilities. I realized that if I live in the "now", the present moment, I really did not have any reason to be depressed at all. I discovered I really only live in the "now". The past and future are fictions. It is akin to a motorboat on the water on a lake. The "wake" that the boat produces is the past, my vision of the future is what I can see in front of me, but I really only exist ON the boat in the present moment. I was living my life only on the "wake" created many meters before. Soon, my self-pity slowly subsided as I learned to accept "what is" and not grasp for anything and everything that is valued by Society. I concurred that it was my own "expectations" not realized that were causing such waves of discontent. Once I dropped my self imposed sad "life story", my yesterdays, I came to my senses that there was no need to feel upset at all. That realization hit me like "a ton of bricks" and quickly lifted me out of the well, like a rope thrown down the dark walls of the deep well. I would like to share that it was only that single moment of enlightenment, a "satori" event that forever changed my life, but that was not so. It was a gradual climb out of the abyss (over about a year). I realized that my mind was like a superhighway of blazing thoughts that went through my mind over and over based on the recent past. While my "life story" was going great, I believed in those thoughts, and my ego grew such that I became arrogant and sometimes unkind. Then when my "life story" changed for the worse, I similarly believed in those new negative thoughts with the same passion (which hurt me so deeply throughout my waking hours). I noted to myself that this was why I craved so many "tranquilizers" and medicines that would halt my thoughts. I realized that I was drowning in my negative thoughts and that I was CHOOSING to believe in them. But I learned through focusing on positive affirmations, meditation and prayer, I did not need any more drugs to "halt" my mind from stabbing me to death. Through the filter of society's measure I had evaluated my own life, unable to fully realize that it was all a fiction that my mind had created. I was completely unable to live in the present before this profound awakening. My life had turned into a constant "replay" of the past, the anxiety of the uncertain future...and my destroyed ego. Because of my belief that my thoughts were the ultimate truth, I suffered so deeply... but needlessly. Once I changed the direction of my thoughts, everything changed. The way I looked at my own life changed. I realized that LIFE is not a long emergency where the one with the most toys at the end wins. I realized LIFE is something to be lived fully, and joyfully...not some series of problems to be solved. Once I realized these insights, I realized that I was the creation of my own depression. Although a devout Catholic, I am also deeply moved by the ideals of Buddhism. About Karma and "Dependent Arising"...both of which are also in the Bible (Galations 6, Do not be deceived, God will not be mocked, a person always reaps what they sow). And I was...for the better part of my life, a runaway train into disaster that I was blind to...that I had planted the seeds onto. Putting money, fame, accolades, trophies, and so forth as the ultimate end to my goals sowed the seeds of psychological calamity when the inevitable tides of change occurs in every life. A person who extols those superficial qualities dooms himself/herself to disaster. The only variable is "time". Would it take a long time to find yourself in a train wreck or a short time? It doesn't matter. What matters is how soon can you realize the truth of existence and your place in it...and rise above what Society tries to focus you to believe. Society always makes you compare yourself to others, Society never leaves you alone to just be yourself. You have to exert effort and unlearn what Society has poisoned you with. I am now doing various "work" (not holding down any soul sucking corporate job), teaching, making money through various income sources like buying items at rummage sales and reselling them through Craigslist, asking neighbors and doing work they need, trading stock options when my financial tools indicate that there is a good trade. I am not focused on any "ladder to climb" or any "prestigious career"...and I am so much happier and at peace. I'd rather be "waterboarded" that go back to Corporate America. I have also a solid equanimity, and i am OK with whatever happens, and thus accept what God and the Universe wish for me. I wish to share my newly found wisdom and hope that my story and my interpretation of my newly found contentment can benefit others and I also wish to hear similar stories of awakening. God Bless, thanks for reading my "profile" and leave me your stories of awakening. Outside somewhere is a field where all of us are the same, I cannot wait to see you there...Namaste...
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