Now this may seem strange, but The Pursuit of Happiness, which is in our Constitution, is an impossible thing to achieve. Don’t pursue it because it will only bring you misery. If you reflect back on your life, you may recall just a handful of truly happy moments, which probably happened when you were not looking for it. When you are looking for something really hard, happiness will elude you over and over again.
This is the paradox. When your mind is stressed looking for ways to be happy, time will slow down, your expectations will rise, and your happiness will be fleeting more and more. Please just stop looking for happiness, and then happiness will come and find you. When you are not seeking, your mind will become relaxed, and time will disappear, and then the happy moments will find you. That is the supreme irony.
When you are nervous and tense, you are clinging and seeking, and time will slow down, and happiness will have a very hard time to find you. You have to be relaxed and open. If you look around you, if you think about who is really happy and content, you will note that they are the ones who have the least responsibility, the least money, and hence the least worry. My old U.S. Postal Service lady was the happiest person I ever met. She was always singing and smiling joyfully to the Lord, and her thoughts were so simple and clear. She never yearned for more, and was happy to be alive doing exactly what she was doing. She spread her happiness everywhere, it was a joy to be a witness to her.
Happiness is not something that can be grabbed. Happiness simply occurs when you have an open heart, a giving heart, and are open to life. Happiness is like the wind. It is all around you, but if you grab at it, you will not feel anything. If you simply leave your hands open and allow the wind to flow through your being, your body, the wind is all around you, and flowing. Just like happiness. It is always with you. Happiness is a relaxed state of mind, a state where you are at ease with your being. And happiness does not come and go like a long lost cousin. It is like your breath and your blood. It is all around you. If you pursue anything, then you will not be able to get it.
Remember to when you were a child and you played tag. You were always “pursuing” someone else. Once you got that person and tagged them, “You’re it.” Did you ever really achieve anything? The only thing is the endless pursuit, and that is not happiness. The act and behavior of “pursuit” can never end up in a lasting state of happiness. The only thing that will occur is that you will wait for the next person to be “it”. And then, he may tag you and then you will be “it.”
Sure it is fun for a short while, but you cannot any state of lasting joy or bliss. When the game stops, you and the other person do not even know what to do with yourself. I suppose if you are playing that game or a video game, it is fun and cool. But can you live inside the world of a video game for long? Doesn’t the game get boring and then you have to find another thing to do, another video game to buy at the store for $100.00?