In other words, please recognize and meditate on the profound thought that your reality is defined by your desire system. The author Ram Dass first altered me to this deep insight. For example, say you are driving down the street and you have a terrible stomach ache, you will start to notice only the drugstores and supermarkets where you can purchase an antacid. You will not see the gas stations, restaurants, schools, hospitals, or other businesses that you pass by. They will simply not exist in your world. It does not mean that they do not exist at all, they just do not exist to you.
And you are the observer, period. Now, if you really have to go to the restroom, then you will start to notice all the places you can relieve yourself, and the more desperate you are, the locations you notice will change too. You will notice the gas stations, restaurants, schools,… but not so much the hospitals because it would take you a long time to park and take the elevator and so on. If you REALLY have to go, you will notice the backs of dumpsters, maybe a secluded tree by the highway, the dark alleys, and you will not even notice the gas stations, restaurants, schools at all. If you REALLY REALLY have to go to the restroom, all you will see is a quick place to park your car.
Please recognize this profound implication and use it to gain understanding and awareness. It is basically your attachments to your desires that form your world. If you are feeling pain and suffering, you must recognize that your desire system is creating the desire system which is doing it to you. If you change your attachments to things which are causing you misery, then you will no longer suffer. This is because there will be nobody to feel this pain. The pain will simply lift away, and disappear, because there is no place that the pain can land on.
If you desire something, you will notice that periods of suffering will start to bubble up and surface when you lack that which you are seeking. If you are totally without desire and without attachment to anything, you can really start to appreciate everything and really be in the moment, as there is nothing to distract you. As Rass Dass wrote, only the unattached mind can appreciate all the true beauty on this earth. Therefore, you will note all that you pass by in the car, and enjoy the mystery of all that is.
Think about it and realize how profound that notion is. Let’s say you really want a Harley Davidson motorcycle for the summer, but you can’t budget enough money for it. You then feel anguish and are upset that you don’t have the money to purchase the motorcycle. Then you feel suffering. But what if you didn’t even want the motorcycle to begin with? What if you had NO desire at all for the motorcycle? Then there would be no suffering. If you are able to disregard or erase all your desire for the motorcycle, then the suffering that you may experience at NOT having the motorcycle will cease immediately. Therefore, when you take time to meditate, relax, contemplate, and quiet your mind, the number of things that you desire should decrease in proportion.
To illustrate another example, at this moment there is an IPO for an Internet company going named Facebook. It is a social networking site with a lot of users who post their lives for their friends. The founder, a young man named Mark Zuckerberg who is only 28 years old, became an instant billionaire today as of this writing. There were so many “haters” and envious people commenting about him on chatrooms and stock market websites. This is all because they wish they were him, a very rich young man who is obviously free of all anxiety over money (hopefully). It is their own desire for money that creates their envy. If the negative commenters did not care at all about money themselves, they could not care at all about this story.
In order to free yourself, take some time of every day to practice quieting your mind. Take a routine up to take a warm bath or shower, take a jog (to practice nurturing your body), meditate, pray, and contemplate all that you have and are grateful for, and hopefully your thoughts will start to slow down. If this occurs, then you will have less desires and thus less suffering as a result.