Always hammer away in your mind that if you are miserable, that means only you are making yourself miserable. Nobody else can make you that way. Consider this example, if you are given a gift, and you do not accept it, then whose gift is it? In the same way, if someone hands you an anger “package”, and you don’t accept it, then can you internalize his anger? Of course not. His anger will simply bounce off you or move right through you. You have a choice.
Joke time: My wife has an even disposition—always mad.
Never forget this: nobody can make you angry unless you decide for yourself to become angry. As we said before, anger first starts off with an angry thought. If you do something about the “thought” before it expands and becomes large, you will have done a “Good Turn” that day (motto from my days as a Boy Scout). If someone cuts you off while you are driving on the expressway, and you feel a slight tinge of anger developing, do something about it. You can do so many things, first by just letting them in and slowing down. You can say to yourself, “Wow, he did a dangerous thing, but he must be in such a hurry.” Can’t you recall when you were in a great hurry and did something careless to someone?
You could also turn on the radio to a soft music classical channel, and diffusing the blossoming anger. You could also say a quiet prayer and well wish to the person who brought you to anger. You could just sigh, and say, “That’s life, miserable traffic conditions…” But the last thing you wish to do is to return the deed, and start turning red with rage and honking your horn desperately. Doing do will result in a series of negative events affecting both you and the other driver. You could cause an accident, making him swerve back. He could also return the honking, or flip a lewd hand gesture in your direction which would escalate the anger brewing in you and the other driver. Then both you and the other driver would be in “anger mode” and the next person/soul you meet will get an unfavorable treatment from you. And the ball will keep rolling with the next person to grab the “hot potato” of bitterness.