Also, think about the other hand of this. Stay away from unhappy people in general. Now, I do not mean don’t help someone who is unhappy. By all means help them and try to make them see the general error of their clinging onto unhappiness. But if they persist on being unhappy, then they are in fact choosing to be so, and embracing their unhappiness to justify something inside them.
Don’t let this impact you and affect you and make yourself as miserable as they are. Emotions are infectious. If you are happy and you make others around you happy, then a random person who walks into your circle of happiness will become happy themselves. But take a similar circle of unhappy people who are all similarly complaining about something and wallowing in agony. Then if a random person comes into their circle, there is the highest likelihood that the newcomer will find themselves unhappy too as a result.
You as an individual are no different. If you surround yourself with unhappy people, you will also become unhappy. And this will not only affect you but it will affect whomever you meet down the road. You will become like a cancer or virus, spreading that unhappiness wherever you go. Now, the “action echo” will be reversed. Your negative moods will affect an infinite number of people, and an infinite number of actions.
Don’t associate with unhappy people or groups of people. If someone is unhappy, try to help them. Try to explain to them the things I am explaining to you as kindly as possible. Explain to them the causes of their misery and point out how it really is a choice to be unhappy and miserable. If they persist on being unhappy, then promptly get away so that you do not become infected by their negative thinking. Only the strongest of people can resist moment after moment and day after day of negativity and keep remaining in their center. One can only take so much before they themselves become affected by those around them. If people around you are singing and dancing, then you will do likewise. If they are screaming and groaning, then don’t be surprised if you start doing do as well.
Happiness is not some scarce thing like a treasure map or being selected the ONLY person to be the quarterback of a sports team (as there can be only ONE quarterback). Happiness can be obtained by all. The good thing about happiness is that it can spread like a wildfire and engulf the entire forest (but using the analogy of humans, in a good way). Happiness is like the air around us, it is basically infinite (for now of course. If pollution has its way in the future, maybe not…).
Like I mentioned, being happy makes it easier for someone else to become happy. You are, in a very real sense, helping the universe itself to become happy. You are not an island onto itself. You are a living breathing representative of the entire universe. And you are a microcosm of the universe. And you are not separate from the universe. This is a term called enlightenment that I will discuss later. As you become more and more enlightened, you will help others also become enlightened.
And you will radiate a glow that will shine across the world. Again, don’t be competitive. Nature is not competitive like you think of the word. Nature blooms naturally unintentionally outward, while you intentionally think of ways to outmanuever and outwit those people around you. That is the difference. Don’t let society muddle your head and give you a nervous breakdown. Just walk outside in the early morning rush hour in any American city) and observe the peoples’ faces. Look at the grimaces they hold on to with dear life as they head to work for another dreary day. Watch them grumble to themselves in anguish, in bitterness. Don’t become one of them.